Establishing yourself in a new city may very well be one of the most horrifying and terrifying tasks to conquer for an introvert. For the introvert, moving in, unpacking, reorganizing, cleaning every nook and cranny. That’s the easy stuff. It is outside of the 4 walls that we find out greatest battle. The battle to recreate ourselves. The battle to be seen and known by the people we don’t know. It all feels so huge and way out of reach. Moving when you know no one is also this huge leap of faith. There is no one to fall back on, no one to do the scary stuff with. Each day, stepping out of the comfort zone, meeting new people, discovering new things is such a thrill and such a difficult step! I have officially lived in this apartment for 9 days and 4 minutes. And 8 days, 22 hours, and 37 minutes of that time I have spent freaking out about how I may have just made the biggest mistake of my life. Seriously. What have I done with my life?!?!?!
But then I remember how every single detail fell into place and I hop back on the self reassurance train and I head into the unknown. The unknown is a little dark. But It is also full of so many beautiful and brilliant things. And sometimes you have to create those brilliant things.
My biggest piece of advice to someone, especially an introvert, on establishing yourself in a new place is this. Pick a room, or a corner, or a place and make it yours. Unpack everything that should go in that space and allow it to be your sanctuary. Find peace there, find solace there. Allow it to heal the broken, sad pieces of your heart. Because as I’m finding, no matter how necessary or anticipated or exciting a change may be. There is still a bit of mourning that has to happen. Your life has just dramatically changed. And it’s okay to have moments when you don’t feel great about your new decision. And all I have to say about that is trust yourself. Trust your gut. Trust what you know to be true, not the fear of the moment. Trust that you know what’s best for your life and that change is good. Change is normal. Change is necessary for beauty to emerge. Change is the stepping stone to success..